The family court system, like war, isn’t always fair. Here’s some Family Court advice for men, to help you survive and make it through to the other side
I’m an ingénue to the family court horror show.
Though twice-divorced myself, the divorces were as amicable as possible. In both instances, there were no children involved; my exes and I were still speaking and wished one another no ill will. Still don’t, so far as I know.
I mention this only because, as I’ve dipped my toe into these roiling and shark-infested waters of family law the past 10 days and been overwhelmed with email that breaks my heart, I was unprepared. I had little idea how bad it was.
I’ve had hundreds and hundreds of notes; on a gender breakdown, probably 80 per cent are from men, 20 per cent from women.
I’ve heard from family court lawyers, some of whom are angry at my suggestions that fathers get the tough end of the stick in child custody cases (though the actual evidence is reasonably clear that they do), some of whom say “the whole system is B.S … one of the first things out of my mouth when I see someone is, ‘What’s your budget and how much does he/she dislike you?’” I’ve heard from judges and former judges and psychologists and counsellors.
Without exception, they agree that the system is beyond broken.
But like most journalists, while I can write about the problems ad nauseam, I’ve no advice to offer, no suggestions how to make things better, no wisdom to impart.
But some people do…
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